We started spreading our news more publicly over the past couple of weeks. I was reluctant to let our secret out for fear that once we did something would go wrong. But it was getting harder to hide and actually now that the news is out I feel a sense of relief. Honestly, if something does go wrong at this point, we will need all the love and support we can get. And our announcements (we made them in stages) of this pregnancy have always included some kind of disclosure of our prior losses.
We started by telling our close relatives in person. We visited Grandma WOW and gave her an enlarged version of one of our 12 week ultrasound pictures which my husband photoshopped to include a cartoon bubble with the baby introducing his/herself as her great-grandchild who she would get to meet in the spring. Her reaction was priceless. Before we told her the news, she was lamenting over how old she is. She can't believe she is almost 86. But a few minutes later when we told her that she was going to be a great-grandma, she laughed and said, "but I'm too young!" Although her memory has been fading more rapidly, she seems to have remembered this news over the past couple weeks and I really hope that she will have the chance to meet her first great-grandchild.
A few days later we sent emails and text messages to some select people, close friends and extended family, who have known about the struggles we have endured. The subject of the message was "We've Been Keeping a Secret" and the message included a photo of me wearing a tshirt we had made that says "Future Indians Fan" with an arrow pointing to my belly. If I haven't mentioned it before, my husband and I enjoy going to baseball games and listening to them on the radio if we aren't at the game itself. We wanted to make sure these people heard the news directly from us first before we shared the news with coworkers and others.
I shared the news at work last week. I met with my supervisor first to let her know the news and that I planned to tell the office right after we met. She's not that great at keeping secrets so I made sure to tell her just moments before my big reveal. The night before, my husband and I went to a party supply store and bought this baby balloon which I brought and hung outside my office door:
I also brought in munch.kin donuts from Dunk.in Donuts and sent out an email (which also included the pic of me in the tshirt) which said:
There are Dun.kin Donut munchkins on the conference table for everyone to celebrate the announcement of the little “munchkin” Hubby and I are expecting on April 1, 2012 – just in time for the start of the next MLB season!!
A few days later, after much back and forth in my head about if and when to share the news on Face.book and how to share it without sounding like your average fertile, I decided on the following post which also include the photo of me in the tshirt (I have not posted any ultrasound photos):